The kind of love you can't live without.
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Wow, KarmaGirl's article "He’s not the man I married..." makes me appreciate what I have even more. It's very refreshing to read an article that's up beat and positive and relates the brighter side of this topic. Thank you! It was very well written.
A few days ago someone asked me how I'm enjoying marriage (I've only been married nearly 10 months now) and of course, I said I'm loving it -- which I am. They then replied, "Good. You're still newly weds. Enjoy it while it lasts." I thought to myself, "Ouch! That hurt." I reasoned they themselves said that because they were divorced. It's too bad many people today in our society (USA) view marriage as a bad thing. I've spoken to a lot of people who shutter at marriage. I've often wondered why? Perhaps I lack "experience" in the ways of personal relationship, or perhaps I've just ignored becoming callus to the thoughts or feelings of my mate. Personally, I would rather see my wife happy then see me happy. It pains me to see her cry and hurt and she knows this very much too. I think it comes down to how you look at what you have. Do you truly appreciate it? Most likely this view changes over time; Time can be a horrible thing. It makes us forget about all the good that has happened if we don't have the reminders to keep us focused on what makes us happy. I have to ask myself nearly every day what makes me happy. I just make a quick list in my head and keep it there in the back of my mind though out my day.
Be Positive!
Being positive goes along way. For example, I'm positive that I have got to be one of the most annoying people I know. The sad part is my wife has to deal with that. The positive thing is I have a wife who has to deal with that. What would I do with myself with out her? That's a scary thought. So, there I go, finding myself at the flower shop or 1-800-flowers.com ordering fresh flowers for the love I can't live with out. When she smiles, I know that I've just made her day and I've also just added one more positive thing to my list. Everyday I try to think of something that I can do for her and she does the same for me. It's an agreement we've made to each other since our wedding day, and I couldn't be happier.
Going back to KarmaGirls article, it struck me that really, we all change. I've change a ton in 10 months, so has my wife. I've learned a lot. What to say, what not to say. What to do and what not to do. We really do learn something new everyday. As we learn, we change, almost certainly for the better. I think if I remain focused on things that not only make me happy and content, but also things that make my wife happy and content, I'll get everything I've ever wanted. Even if the list of things that can get annoying grow, the list of things that I've fallin in love with have a tendency to erase all that other stuff. Besides, I would be selfish if I focused on that anyway. Remember now, I'm the most annoying person I know... and yet SHE still loves me! 
Thanks Angie for that great article. It was quite excellent and it left me with a smile on my face.